Friday, February 24, 2012

Attention problems?

Have you ever dealt with a child with attention problems? Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) or Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD)?

One of my best friends is struggling with her son being diagnosed with this (Along For the Ride) and I know of many others. My brother-in-law, my father-in-law, my nephews...

It is hard to think that a child just simply can't control themselves, but that is what it is like for them...for some kids, it's like they have ants in their pants...or brains...and just can't stop doing whatever it is that they are doing (talking, squirming, bouncing) and others pull away from crowds or can't concentrate on anything that is not "stimulating" (television, video games). Some kids, even if it is stimulating, can't concentrate on anything for more than a few minutes either. It's easy to say that they just were never made to, or that they don't want to, but it's literally because they CAN'T. They don't know how. With the right kinds of counseling and possibly medication though, it can be controlled and the child can learn to control themselves.

Did you know that ADD and ADHD are three times more likely to be diagnosed in boys than in girls?!?

Did you know that the symptoms are different between boys and girls?  Girls tend to be more forgetful and disorganized rather than hyper or too busy, but ADD and ADHD come in all kinds of forms.

Being a parent, you never expect that YOUR child could be suffering from something like this, but it is definitely possible...Pay attention, see if your child needs don't want them to be the kid at school that never pays attention, gets bad grades, or is always in them.

If you have dealt with this and have any words of encouragement for my friend, please leave her some loving words on her blog. Thank you!

Thursday, February 16, 2012

What if it's me? What if it's not?

For anyone who has been trying to get pregnant unsuccessfully for over a year (under 35 years old) or over 6 months (over 35 years old) both partners should get checked out...but sometimes, that is such a hard step to take. Some people are almost afraid to find out why taking temperatures, knowing the signs, and lots of sex don't work.

Many women assume it is them, while men assume that they are the reason that they are not getting two lines on a pregnancy test. Someone is going to feel at fault in their heart until there is a diagnosis, but there should be no finger pointing and no one should feel at fault. If it's a male fertility issue or a female one does not and should not matter, it is simply a fertility issue and it is something you and your spouse should work through together.

I have some dear friends who have been off of birth control for a few years, who have timed, temped, vacationed, relaxed, stressed, tested, and all of the stuff that people do after trying for sometime but they have not gone to see a Dr. yet...

They need to go see a Dr. They need to get everything checked out. You never know...the problem maybe something so easily fixable that it wouldn't take drastic measure to be able to hold that bundle of pure joy in your arms soon...or it might be a really tough journey ahead. There is no telling though, until you go get checked out. Both of you.

What could it hurt to find out? Probably nothing, unless one of you is willing to let it hurt your pride, your ego. If one person believes that it is their "fault" it will hurt...and I totally "get" that. I feel like it is my "fault" sometimes that I can't get pregnant...even though I know I had nothing to do with the medical situation I am in...

Bottom line...go get checked!

Saturday, February 4, 2012

I've been robbed.

I feel like I've been robbed. I'm so....lost...frustrated...sad....and I know no one wants to hear it. My Love says he's done. Says he doesn't want any more kids. period. I feel like I've been robbed...

by the way...this is not his fault...I don't even blame him. Blame lies elsewhere.